A funeral service, like a wedding or birth of a child, is a life event that you have only one chance to make as special and personal as possible. A well-planned, personalised funeral service is a fitting celebration of the life that has been lived. The caring professionals at Hall & Co Funeral Directors are very skilled listeners.
We encourage you to express any preference you have. No question is too minor to ask us. Most of all, we want to help you and your family decide what feels right for you.
To follow is some information that can help you in your planning to celebrate a life
Although the exact nature of funeral rites and ceremonies can differ greatly from one religion or culture to another, different kinds of funerals fulfil the same purposes. When making funeral arrangements, remember to take these important purposes into consideration.
A meaningful funeral will
1. Bring together a community of mourners to remember the deceased.
2. Create opportunities to express our grief and to offer each other emotional support.
3. Allow us to search for meaning in life and death.
4. Provide mourners with a sense of closure.
Personalising the Funeral Service
No two funerals are alike, nor should they be. Our team at Hall & Co Funeral Directors can help you personalise a funeral within a budget you are comfortable with and in the way you want your loved one remembered. Since we will do whatever is possible to help you create a meaningful ceremony, be sure to share your ideas for personalising the funeral with us. Ensure you ask questions and state your unique preferences no matter what they may be.
There are many traditional choices to make
Simple or elaborate, viewing or visitation, remembrance or religious rites, chapel or graveside, burial or cremation. Additionally, your choices of music, flowers, location, monument, etc., can all reflect your individual tastes and wishes. As you consider your choices, also think about the people who will attend your services. Sometimes, something as simple as a certain piece of music or type of flower can offer loved ones a great deal of comfort when it elicits a special memory or significance. Below are some ideas to help you personalise a funeral service.
Ideas to Personalise a Funeral Service
Write a letter to the person who has died and express all of the feelings you ever wanted to say and place it in the casket.
Bring in the favourite song of the person who has died and have funeral director play it during the visitation and/or funeral service.
Bring photographs to the funeral director to be used on a memory board for the visitation and funeral service.
If your loved one had a hobby, bring some of their works in to be displayed at the funeral home. For example your funeral director could take quilt work and drape it over the casket.
If you or your loved one has favourite scripture readings, let us know and we will see to it that they are incorporated into the service.
If your loved one composed poetry or essays, we can reproduce several copies so that people might take these with them from the funeral home. They could also be recited as a part of the services.
If the person who died was not a regular churchgoer, consider a memorial service in a favourite place that perhaps reflected their lifestyle; like a park, the farm or even a rugby field or bowling club.
Eulogize the person who has died during the funeral or visitation. Often times the clergy person did not know the person who has died. Who better can do that than someone who better knew the person who died.
Place cherished items in the casket like pictures of the grandchildren and other family members, a photo of the family pet, a favourite golf club, a pool cue, or a religious item.
Consider anything that had meaning to the deceased
In proceeding to the cemetery, consider a favourite place your loved one liked to go, like their favourite park, or the beach, or even a favourite restaurant.
There are many more ideas we could share with you. Or, discuss any special ideas you might have with him or her. They are professional, caring and experienced.
Perhaps no other moment in the funeral experience is as powerful as the final disposition. For survivors, this is a strong symbolic moment. Confirmation that they must let go of the person who died and look ahead to changed lives.
For this reason, it is important that families choose the kind of final disposition most meaningful to them and most appropriate for the deceased.
Earth burial, otherwise known as interment, is the most common form of disposition in New Zealand. New Zealander’s seem to prefer the idea of a final resting place and a cemetery graveside where they can go to remember the person who died.
During the first few days after a death, family and friends surround you. You are busy planning the funeral and may not have time to think about yourself until later when you are alone with your grief. After you have planned the funeral, take care of yourself.
You can expect to experience a wide range of emotions. Grieving is hard work, and you may feel tired and lethargic without understanding why. Lighten your schedule if you can, eat healthy foods, and exercise to renew your energy. Take time to be alone with your thoughts, but also spend time talking to close family and friends about your loss. You need to express your emotions. Ask us about after care services to support your needs during this time.